There are many errors and oversights that a man can make when trying to court a Russian woman. It is only natural to slip up in the beginning; there are big cultural differences, and it is a foreign situation.

Keep messing up, though, and you will find that you are wasting a lot of both time and money.

These mistakes are in no particular order, and they are all of equal importance.

Top Mistakes That Men Make In Russian Dating: Part Two:

7. Projecting The Attitude That She Jumping At The Chance To Marry You. If you are attentive and kind, she may be interested. If you are rude and arrogant, she will not be. Do not act as if you are better than her. A Russian woman is not desperate. Besides that, why would you be interested in somebody who is only interested in you because she is in the pursuit of a better life, anyway?

8. Thinking That She Will Be Your Trophy Wife. Russian women are not docile creatures. They grew up in different conditions and have had to endure a lot. Many are very independent and strong, and have made a lot of hard decisions in the past. They have dealt with drunkard husbands and boyfriends who refuse to make family life easy, or who do not think twice in finding a mistress. It is almost impossible to control a Russian woman, so do not try.

9. You Are Not Serious. Generally, women will wait 4-6 months for you to decide that you are coming to visit her. If you do not come to the FSU (Former Soviet Union) in a few months after that, she will move on to somebody who she does deem as serious. Generally, 8-10 months is the absolute longest time that a woman will write to you before she gives up. It is important for you to get there because she cannot ever her visa if you do not come, and she needs to make sure that you two are able to click in person as well. Make sure that you are ready emotionally, financially, and physically.

10. There Is A Large Age Gap Between You And Her. Sure, some men have success when there is a 20-year or more age difference. Some men also win the lottery. Granted, Russian women do grow up a lot quicker than their western counterparts, so a 10-15 year age difference may very well work. Anything more than 20 years is pushing it, though. You will likely not have as much in common and the activities that you would want to do would probably be different as well.

11. You Are Not Consistent. If you are not regular and reliable when writing her letters, she will likely want to cut communications with you. If you tell her that you want to visit her, but then have a change of heart, and then re-change your mind, again, she will likely stop talking to you. Many of these women are serious and do not want to waste their time.

12. Your Introduction Letter Does Not Grab Her Attention. There is a lot to be said on this topic, but for now, a quick rundown. Russian women do not want pen pals, first of all, so you need to make sure that you explain your intent. Letters with photos have staggeringly better response rates, so make sure that you include one in your first letter. You can also ask for a response, even if she is not interested. She just may write back. Another good idea is to have your letters translated. Despite how good her English may be, there are huge chances of miscommunications. If you get your letter translated, she will be able to understand the entire thing, would be grateful, and would most likely respond to you.

13. You Do Not See Your Relationship As Being An Equal Partnership. Much like with all women, Russian women want and need to be treated with respect. If you are not willing to view your relationship as a partnership, then you should consider remaining single. To reiterate #7, these women are not desperate, and will not run to marry you just because you are from America.

14. Not Taking This Article Seriously. Russian women are very reserved about their feelings; do not just assume that everything is okay because she is not telling you otherwise.

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Russians have spirit and passion. Just like any other relationship it will be hard at moments to understand your bride and agree with her moods.

Unlike western society where people are alienated, Russians always are supportive and are ready to lend a hand to everyone in need. They need to share all the moments of happiness or misfortune. Probably they will be surprised how so many young people are leaving their parents and see them only for Christmas or Easter.

Your first task after introducing your wife to your family is to make her feel comfortable with them. Cultural differences are not one and two and the bridegroom should be patient and explain the whole system and modern traditions which we westerners follow.

Do not be jealous if your wife is kissing your brother cheeks, or hugs him every time when she sees him. Russians are warm people and these gestures are not seduction, but a way to show that they like him as a brother.

It is not strange that in Russian, the word brat (brother) is very popular and can be heard between comrades. Every scene of jealous feelings will have a negative effect on your bride and will make her feel oppressed and misunderstood.

Russians have a good education system which allows them to be active members of the foreign society. They have various interests and hobbies. Most of them have been participating in groups for arts or literature circles in high school.

Engineering and heavy industry are well developed in Russia so do not be surprised if your wife is having degree in physics or chemistry and wants to put her knowledge into practice in her new home country. The best you can do for her is to support her and guide her in the complicated recruitment labyrinths. She will appreciate this and praise you forever.

Modern Russians enjoy freedom and entertainment. Do not force your pretty bride to stay home on Friday night and watch television with you. Take her out and show her your favorite places for dining. These ladies have fantastic rhythm; invite her to a club and this will be a feast for your senses. Join her and dance like nobody is watching.

Traveling broadens your horizon. Now when you have such a charming company is the time to get on the car and escape the noise of the city. Whenever you can, tour the country and show her places which she has seen only on the map. This will help you strengthen your relationship and will be extremely interesting to her. Experiences are those tiny bolts which make the feeling real and the memories stronger.

Surprise her with flowers. Those small gestures will fill your life with romance. In Russia, March 8th is very popular holiday. In case you have not noticed it yet, this is international women’s day. Under no circumstances, should you forget this occasion! It is as bad as forgetting Valentine’s Day!

Be creative and make your pretty Russian bride important in your life, do not forget holidays and respect her culture. In return she will stay with you forever.